Need help coping with your chronic illness?

Do you wake every day trying to find your way? Is your life of full of pain, pain, pain? No one understands you. Does this sound familiar? I know it all too well. As someone who has lived with a chronic illness, I know what it feels like to be judged by the exterior which thankfully remains intact, while the interior weighs you down.

Who better to empathize with your pain and struggle than a chronic illness warrior?

You sometimes ask yourself, “Why me? Why me?”  Your heart cries out for relief, love, for companionship, friendship, and happiness. What can you do to be happy?

These are the questions that a chronic illness coach can help you answer. A coach can help you identify the things that you can control and help you advocate for yourself. You are not alone. It is estimated by the National Health Council that half of all adults, about 133 million people, have one or more chronic conditions.

My story…

On the outside, one would say I was well established and put together, but on the inside I was slowly dying. Years of misdiagnoses caused me to suffer from a major mood disorder and depression. If you came into contact with me, you would have thought I was crazy or in a bad mood ALL THE TIME. But years later, I was diagnosed with Graves’ disease, a thyroid disorder that proved difficult to treat because to make matters worse, I had a genetic mutation that prevented my medication from working properly. Being compound heterozygous, due to the MTHFR genetic mutation, wreaked havoc on my body. This mutation caused methylation issues that prevented my body from digesting food and functioning properly. For more info on MTHFR, click here.

Two years ago, this diagnosis answered many questions for me and gave me part of my life back. Finally, I got the confirmation that I always knew. I wasn’t just crazy as many doctors made me feel due to their inability to treat my various ailments. I have now taken back my life.  Instead of feeling like dying, I began to reclaim my life. I started to live and be happy with myself.

A life changing moment

I remember talking to my mother and telling her what I would give to be happy, to feel happy, and to smile again. I reflected deeply on the definition of happiness. What did it feel like, smell like, taste like? As I contemplated the alternative, I reminded myself that every breath I took brought me life. If I wasn’t breathing, I wasn’t living. Still, I struggled and told myself that happiness is more than breathing. It’s living, it’s feeling loved, it’s family, and it’s friends.

My mother reminded me that we all had a purpose and would talk about her favorite childhood movie, “It’s a Wonderful Life,” where an angel was sent to show a desperately frustrated businessman what life would be like if he never existed. The angel grants George, the main character, his wish and he starts to see what the world would be like if he weren’t alive. He sees how much he impacts the lives of others and his purpose. In an emotionally gripping scene, a young George saves his younger brother from drowning.

With this discussion, I was reminded of my purpose. There’s more for me to do on this earth while I am here from educating the nation’s youth to helping people with chronic illnesses. I began to realize why this was happening for me rather than to me. I learned to manage the pain and to adjust my daily tasks. My body was not the same and that was okay. Even though I was sick, it was for the greater good. I would be able to use my story to help others.

Why should you choose me to be your Chronic Illness Coach?

#inspirationalblog #realtalk #blackgirlblogger #drgarcia #chronicillnessAs a chronic illness warrior, I know first-hand what it is like to live with a chronic illness. After years of struggling with an autoimmune illness and genetic mutation, I learned how to cope with chronic pain, depression, and anxiety.

I am compassionate and an effective communicator and listener. I provide exceptional client services including life skills, purpose, and coping strategies. My mission is to help others turn adversity into triumph and live their best life now. Over the years, I’ve learned to manage my illness by using different medical treatments including traditional and homeopathic remedies to get well. I am committed to helping my clients re-establish a purposeful life.

As you enter this site, you will have access to my documented healing journey and how it gave me a real appreciation for life and wellness. My mission is to help others gather a better sense of purpose, to better navigate the medical world and to get the best medical care possible.

I invite you to explore the possibilities through a complimentary consultation. See how this program can help you live your best life now. Click here to schedule a free consultation.

You can learn more about my services here.

In the meantime, download the Problem Solving Worksheet, Self-Coaching Form, and Positive Coping Workbook to get started on re-establishing your purposeful life.

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  1. How I wish I could reach my arms from my corner of Iowa to find you. I … am … so … sorry. I can’t imagine the depth of your pain in losing a child. I’m praying for you tonight, that you would know that God is very, very close. That you would FEEL the closeness of the God who bottles up every tear that falls.

    1. Thank you so much for your kind words and compassion. I have grown and learned so much from that experience. I am at peace now and am enjoying my life! Blessings

  2. Great article and glad you were vulnerable enough to share your struggle with us. I can relate to your pain as I also have a chronic autoimmune disorder. Stay positive…

  3. Your words hit home. The struggles are real but my faith is greater. To God be the the Glory. I hear you, I see you, I admire you…❤

  4. BRAVO!! Beautifully written and expressed!! You are very talented and honest!! Keep up the great work! I know your words will touch the hearts and lives of many!!

  5. Hello BraveHeart
    I admire your truth. Many of us including myself share your pain. Everything looks so well put together on the outside but on the inside we are dying.
    Everyone knows you, but yet no one understands.
    Carrying the weight of everyone around you, being labelled strong so “they” all feel that you dont need anything or assume you have it all together.
    Little do “they” know a hug or some encouragement could help.
    The journey of healing is painful, but addressing it does make it easier to bear.
    It teaches us something about our Soul…..
    May God bless you and Carry you on this journey.
    I am so proud of you and I thank you 😘

  6. I am so proud and happy that you have started this blog and are sharing your thoughts. I can totally relate to a lot that you have expressed. It is good to know that others are experiencing the same things and can share. This is definitely an outlet for people to get some relief.

  7. Your such an amazing n beautiful person n mother that I’ve had the pleasure knowing thru school n as adults!! I will continue reading bsrealtalk cause its definitely helping me thru!!! Love ya lady

  8. I love this! There are more of us going through this struggle than not. This outlines the challenges of life. Unfortunately for some of us the burden is much greater than for others. I’d like to think it’s bc of the strength that lies within us. God always has purpose is my belief

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